Single parents in the South Asian community face immense challenges, from financial struggles to emotional isolation, all while raising their children alone.
Whether divorced or widowed, many endure stigma, judgment, and a lack of support from family and society. Cultural expectations often place the burden on them to maintain appearances, discouraging them from seeking companionship or love again. Dating, in particular, remains taboo, with fears of being judged or seen as "damaged" holding many back.
Support for South Asian single parents
Aruna Bansal, Founder of Asian Single Parents Network CIC, highlighted the challenges many divorced South Asian women face, particularly the stigma and isolation. “More couples today are unwilling to stay in unhappy marriages, yet divorce remains difficult for some families to accept. Women often bear the burden of making a marriage work and are blamed even if they didn’t initiate the separation,” she said. Many members of the network keep their situation private due to fear of judgment, especially from older generations who believe marriage is for life. “Some even endure domestic violence because their families insist they must stay,” Bansal added. She emphasised the relief members feel upon joining the network, realising they are not alone and can find support from others who truly understand.
Aruna shed light on the stigma surrounding single mothers, stating, “Many hesitate to leave unhappy marriages due to fear of judgment, often staying in toxic relationships for the sake of their children or the pressure of ‘what will people say.’” She recalled a heart breaking case of a woman who endured an abusive marriage to avoid being disowned by her family. “Despite her suffering, she feared losing her family more than facing mistreatment.”
She also highlighted the unique challenges single fathers encounter, noting that societal expectations discourage men from expressing vulnerability. “Men are often expected to suppress their emotions, making divorce an even more isolating experience for them. Our network supports both mums and dads, recognising that stigma exists on both sides.”
Discussing single parents’ struggles, Aruna noted, “Social isolation is a major challenge. Without a partner’s support, many also lose the backing of family and friends due to stigma.” She stressed the toll on mental health, adding, “In our community, mental health issues are often seen as shameful, leaving many to suffer in silence.”
Discussing the importance of support systems for single parents, Aruna said, “Communities tailored for single parents help reduce isolation by providing a judgment-free space to connect, share experiences, and seek advice. Our Network offers companionship for activities, support through challenges, and inspiration from others’ journeys. Hearing success stories gives members hope that they too can rebuild.” She also encouraged seeking support from family, friends, and platforms like Meetup and Facebook groups to foster new connections.
Overcoming dating stigma
South Asian single parents face unique challenges when re-entering the dating world, navigating not just personal hurdles but also cultural judgment and family expectations. Transformation and relationship coach, Manj Bahra explains, “There’s often a fear of being seen as ‘damaged’ or having to justify why the previous relationship ended. Many feel torn between wanting companionship and being judged for it-especially by family or community. The mental load is heavy, balancing the need for connection with protecting their children from instability. For some, dating after years-especially in a modern landscape of apps and shifting norms-feels overwhelming.”
When it comes to balancing dating with parenting, Manj emphasises mind-set shifts: “Dating doesn’t take away from your kids-it’s about modelling self-respect and healthy connections. The key is being intentional. Quality over quantity. Use systems like childcare swaps, set ‘me-time,’ and limit dating to certain days.” He advises against hiding or overexposing dating to children, stressing that stability and clarity prevent emotional chaos at home. “When you’re clear about what you’re looking for, you waste less time, reduce drama, and keep your home life stable.”
Encouraging South Asian single parents to seek love again, he advised, “Own your story-don’t hide it. You’re not broken for being divorced or raising a child alone; you’re strong and emotionally mature. But don’t settle just to prove your desirability. Date from a place of self-worth, not urgency. Know what you want-not what others expect. Your child will benefit more from seeing you happy and secure than from you staying stuck in guilt or fear. This time, you get to redefine love-on your terms.”
